Adventurers are the kind of people who should have the things they want....

otherwise they wouldn't be blessed with wanting them!!!(Mike Dooley's Notes from the Universe http://www.tut.com/resources/notes/)

Happy Monday to you all and thanks for reading this blog :-) Ever stopped to think why most people hate and sometimes fear Mondays? If you are one of the lucky ones, who LOVES Mondays, ever stop to think about why that is?

Here is my guess for the haters. The things you want in life, do not match up with the things you believe.  For example. Let's say you have always wanted to be a professional musician. You LOVE to play your instrument, when you are not playing your instrument you are thinking about playing it, or doing something that involves the betterment of your profession....oh wait, that's what professional musicians do, the ones who really do what they love!

Good chance your mind is occupied with thoughts of where to get your next Tim Horton's or Starbucks, who won the big game over the weekend, where did that asshole who just cut you off get their drivers license, or for the ladies, will that pair of shoes you saw in the mall on Saturday still be there on pay day? Does that sound more like it?

Again, to quote Mike Dooley's Notes from the universe, "How much time do you spend thinking big. I mean REALLY REALLY BIG!! Good, very good, because that's exactly how much of it you are going to get!"

Please note the sarcasm!!!

In the last blog we discussed WIN/WIN situations. Does this sounds like a win win to you? You go to work day in day out, you get payed, you go home, watch tv, go to bed....wake up and hate Mondays!!

More than likely there is a fair amount of blame that goes along with that situation. My job sucks because my boss is a bitch and my coworkers are tools, or I can't afford those shoes because I don't get paid enough, or FML because my girlfriend thinks I am fat.

I am gonna stop here and take a moment to tell you that there is nobody to blame except yourself!!!! Let me repeat it. THERE IS NOBODY TO BLAME EXCEPT YOURSELF!!!!

You have created a life for yourself that is not win/win and guess what...you are the loser 1st and foremost. The worst part is that you are not the only loser, you are creating a lose/lose situation for every one you know in the long run.

Let's revisit 3 principles of the win/win situation:

• Integrity: sticking with your true feelings, values, and commitments
• Maturity: expressing your ideas and feelings with courage and consideration for the ideas and feelings of others
• Abundance Mentality: believing there is plenty for everyone

If you trust what I am telling you here, you can look back on those 3 principles and see why you have arrived at this point in your life and are not fulfilled. That is why you are hating Monday's.

If there is something you don't like in your life you have a breakdown in one of these three areas. The good news is that there is hope. You made this mess, and you are the one who can fix it(actually the only one).

Let's see if the 7 habits can guide us:

• Habit 1 - Be proactive - Recognize that you are unsatisfied with your life.
• Habit 2 - Think with the end in mind - Figure out how you would like your life to be.
• Habit 3 - Put 1st things 1st -organize the things in your life in order of importance!
• Habit 4 - Think Win/Win - Integrity: Be honest with yourself, Maturity: be honest with others, Abundance Mentality: Trust yourself and others!!

OK...so don't go crying in your corn flakes just yet, or on the other hand, fire all half cocked to change your world.  Have a look back at some of my previous blogs. See if any of the techniques or videos will be helpful. Then if you don't like the opportunities ahead of you, proceed to cry in your corn flakes ;-)

All the best,
Johnny O.

P.s. - Here is a little tune to get your day going:


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